#1. A Positive Attitude Is A Beautiful Thing

One way to know if others find you attractive, is to have a positive attitude, and be aware of how people respond to that. When you smile at people, they are probably going to smile back, and when you treat people with kindness, it doesn't really matter if you're in track pants, and haven't washed your hair in days, people respond to kindness with positivity. We all like it when people are nice to us, and we all love to be around people who make us feel good about ourselves. When you look at the people who are close to you, chances are that they make you feel good, and it can surely be said that you will always have fond memories of someone who you met, who instantly treated you with kindness. Being positive is always one of the BEST WAYS TO BE ATTRACTIVE. A positive attitude shines right through you, and makes people enjoy being around you. The first step to exuding attractiveness, is to exude the very best of yourself. This is always an attractive feature.

#2. Negative Attitudes Are Always Unattractive

I'm sure we can all say that we've met people who have attitudes that are draining to be around, or behaviors that make us feel like crap. No one wants to be around someone with a negative attitude, who is constantly looking for the worst in any situation. A person can be enchantingly beautiful on the outside. They may have been physically blessed, from head to toe, by the gene gods, so to speak, but when you're around them, you start to feel like crap. As stereotypically beautiful as some people may be, when they exude negativity and anger, we have a tendency to start noticing their imperfections right away. Beauty cannot shine through people who are not kind, and that can make the most beautiful people unattractive. Yes, we are attracted to physical features, but that's just step one. Beyond that, it's all about who we are as people, and how we walk through life. We've all met people who didn't particularly stand out to us at first glance, but the more we talked with them, them more attractive they started to become. Likewise, we can think someone is completely gorgeous on the outside, but lose our attraction for them, as soon as they start talking. The most beautiful people are certainly not always the most attractive.

#3. You Connect When You Have Conversations

This is a huge one, because how we communicate with people, and what we talk about with them, says an awful lot about us, and who we are. So, if you're with someone, and all they're doing is speaking negatively about others, or complaining about their lives, this can shut us down immediately. Watch out for the narcissistic types as well, because they can get you sucked right in with their beautiful features, and, 'poor me' attitudes. No one is better off by being with someone who they are always having to validate, and give ego boosts to. The conversations we have should be exciting and and meaningful. They should be about things that matter to us. This can also make us attractive. Think about when you've met someone, and at first, they seemed average to you, or you weren't even attracted to them at all, but then, you starting talking with them, and you just can't get enough! It's amazing how we start to find features that we find sexy about someone, once we realize how great they are to talk to. Stimulating conversation is one of the best parts of any relationship, and when we're meeting people, the conversations we have will ultimately determine whether we end up seeing them again, or whether we'd rather not. These may not be surface features, but they are incredibly important features, nonetheless. There are few things more attractive, than someone who is great to talk with

#4. Manners Are A Big Deal

Okay, this idea may sound like it's outdated, but it definitely isn't. You can meet the most attractive person in the world, and if you start getting to know them, and realizing that their manners are terrible, that has the potential to immediately change how you look at them. Bad manners are incredibly unattractive, especially when you're out in dating mode. No matter how funny you may think you are, or how cool you think you seem, no one is going to want to take a person with horrible manners home to meet their parents, grandparents, etc...you get the idea. It's great to be yourself, of course, but it's also respectful to use your manners, and behave respectfully toward others. Bad manners are another one of those things that you may not think of, off the top of your head, when it comes to dating criteria. Rest assured though, if you meet someone and they have absolutely terrible manners, YOU WILL DEFINITELY NOTICE, and it's likely that you will feel uncomfortable, and in all likelihood, disgusted. I don't know about you, but when I meet someone who is well-mannered, polite, and respectful - especially where elders are concerned, I definitely see that as an attractive feature. Remember, manners do matter, and good manners can help anyone appear more attractive.

#5. Having Your 'Stuff' Together Matters - A Lot

Oh, it sure does. No one wants to date a mess, and I'm pretty sure that we can all agree with that. When you meet someone who is constantly in limbo, unable to keep a job, unable to take care of themselves, unable to get things done, they can become very unattractive. We're all busy in this life, and the last thing that most people want to pick up these days, with so much to do, and so little time, is someone who is basically a dependent. On the other hand, when we meet someone who has their priorities in order, works hard, and makes a point of getting things done, we can't help but feel attracted to that, because when you know all of the other things are taken care of in someone else's life, there's not likely to be any unnecessary drama associated with them. People who get things done, and take responsibility for their lives are very attractive, without even trying to be. It's important to remember that having fun, and being able to let loose now and then is also important. No one wants to be with someone who is, 'all business', either. Being on top of things is definitely an attractive feature.

Taking this a bit further, being fun to be around, is also very attractive. We all like to be around people who are fun and can have a good time. Being someone who is open to trying new things, and being active, as well as enjoying some party fun now and then, is sure to make you more attractive to others. We all feel good around people who are fun to be around. We enjoy their company, we look forward to seeing them, we make great memories with them, and we enjoy ourselves when we're with them. There's something about a fun personality that can help us to come out of our shell a little bit as well. We're more likely to step out of our comfort zone and enjoy taking a break from our day-to-day, and find things we enjoy that we may never have thought about trying before. Fun people have the ability to bring that out in people, and that is a very attractive characteristic. It's important to realize though, that someone who is always insistent on being out and having fun, may not always be the best match for us. There has to be a balance in place. Both getting things done, and having fun, are very important elements to any relationship, and generally speaking, it's those who achieve good balance between these two elements, who tend to be seen as attractive to others. There's something to be said about someone who's got a good handle on things.

It's important to realize that complaining and focusing on the bad things in life will never be seen as an attractive characteristic to anyone. Sure, misery loves company, but that should never be accepted as good enough, when you're looking to take a chance on a relationship. We all go through ups and downs in life, and that's completely normal and okay. That's a part of life. If someone is constantly miserable on a good day though, it's important to start taking some future possibilities into consideration. For example, we're going to lose loved ones, jobs will be lost, disappointments are sure to happen. Being with someone that we can weather these storms with, who is able to be a rock for us when we need them to, is a really huge deal. You have to wonder as well, how badly are they going to fall apart when bad things happen? Can they even be there for you? Can they even be there for THEMSELVES? These are huge things to consider, and they are incredibly vital components to a healthy relationship. If someone can't deal with a rainy day, or stubbing their toe, chances are they'll be a nightmare to be around when the really big stuff happens in life. Consider that before taking a step forward. We all need someone who can help make our dark days brighter, and for whom we can do the same - and that is a very attractive quality, in any person.

Confidence Is Incredibly Attractive

So...you know those people? The ones who you look at and think, 'meh...not bad, but I don't get why everyone likes them'? Those people tend to have one thing in spades that can make absolutely anyone attractive. That thing is called confidence. Now, it's important to realize that confidence is NOT the same thing as arrogance, and being arrogant is never going to make you a more attractive person. Confidence is what tells people that you know exactly who you are, and that you're comfortable in your own skin. There is nothing more attractive than this. Even the most beautiful person in the world can become less attractive when they're not confident. We've all seen it, more than once, I'm sure. There are few turn-ons that are bigger than confidence, that's for sure!

Putting It All Together

It's pretty safe to say that throughout this article, we've determined what some of the major features are, in terms of attractiveness. We've also done pretty well with determining what is not attractive. If you've been blessed genetically, one of the best things you can do, is not to walk around as though that's all you're thinking about. One of the sexiest features that anyone can possess, is being beautiful, but coming across as though they don't know it. At the end of the day, someone's beauty can be first seen from the outside, but the perception can change quickly, with just one encounter. So, don't feel threatened by all of those genetically bless folks out there, things aren't always easy for them, either.